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Many of us have a hard time getting over an ex and long for that reconnection. Well, the good news is there are chances that we can. These subtle guidelines will not only show ways to get your ex’s attention back but also help you becoming a whole new different and better person.

Have A Makeover

This may sound pretty cliché, but the first step in getting your ex back is to work on your physical appearance. If you guys have been in a relationship for a long time, it is only natural you let you let yourself go at a point. Now is the time to go back to the drawing board and work on yourself. Get a whole new, different hairdo, if it means tossing out old makeup and getting new ones do it.

This is also a very good time to register at a gym or start taking long walks/jogs and also clean up your diet. If your purse permits you, update your wardrobe. If you have been neglecting your skin, now is the time to go for that expensive (but effective) skin lotion. You may have to put in some extra effort and money here, but your physical appearance is easier to improve than your personality. The idea is to become the sexiest version of yourself that the world has ever seen.

Have A Mental Makeover

Yes, you need to have an upgrade on your mentality as well but don’t panic, this is quite easy. Give up the time you spend on gossip blogs and social media. Spend that time reading motivational books. Also watch current movies, either at home or the cinema. You will notice that in about three weeks, your thinking and mindset will change. When your thoughts change, you become many times smarter.

Downplay Your Weakness

Every single person on this planet has at least one weakness. What is yours? That was probably what made you break up in the first place. It could be from temperamental issues to physical attributes, whatever it is, there is totally no way of completely masking it, but you can seek counsel from a trusted friend or a confidant on how to work on yourself. Also go online to look for ways to help yourself and you will find out that you have become and improved being.

Play Up Your Strengths

Every single one of us has a couple of strengths as well. What is your strongest point? What was it that your ex admired the most in you? Was it your sense of humor? Caring nature or cooking skills? Now is the time to hone your strengths and make them even better.

Building Up Your Personal Confidence

There is nothing as sexy and admirable as being confident. Even if you are dressed to the nines, with zero confidence, it’s all just a waste of time. Work on your confidence level and you will see that it will not only help in getting your ex back, but it will help you to conquer the world in many areas. Being a confident and happy person is probably the most important thing when it comes to getting your ex back.

Make Yourself Interesting

This is a very vital key to getting your ex back as no one wants to be around a bore. You can only be interesting if you are happy from within, so you have to first of all work on making yourself happy. Work on having loads of fun. If your friends invite you out to an event, go out and have fun with them. When you are happy you are also more confident and you will be ready to face your ex when the time is right.

Go On A “Social Media Campaign”

After a breakup, so many people these days, especially celebrities are fond of updating their social media posts to show the world (especially their ex) how happy they are. This is only natural but it can easily be detected as being phony. The best way to go about this is to be subtle. Do not over do it as most people are aware that their exes fake being happy on social media because of them.

Wait for a reasonable enough time after the break up before you start your “campaign.” Examples of things to post should be about how well your career is going, how you are having a great time with your friends and also updates about a fun trip you took. (If you can afford it) Posts to stay away from will be revealing/daring pictures, subtle shades or how you were quick to hook up with someone else.

Employ The Jealousy Tactic

There is power in jealousy. Use the jealousy tactic to your advantage when it comes to aiming at reconnecting with your ex. Drop hints, directly or indirectly that you are hooking up with someone new. The idea is not to rub it in his face, but just drop hints when the opportunity arises. There is a lot of truth in the statement “you never miss something till it’s gone. Study the situation and decide when the time is right. No matter how bad the break-up was, there is the tendency to feel jealous that someone you were with is getting with someone else.

Focus On Your Vibe

Your vibe is your most appealing asset that magnetically attracts the opposite sex, particularly your ex. Your vibe is basically your mood. It’s how you’re truly feeling at the moment (not how you’re pretending to feel). So when your mood is lively and relaxed, your vibe reflects that. When you’re feeling depressed, anxious or upset, your vibe reflects that too. There is nothing more attractive than a person who has a good vibe. A person who has a genuinely good vibe is more attractive than any person with a negative vibe, even if they’ve got supermodel looks.

Remind Him Of The Good Times

Naturally, you want your ex to only think about the most positive experiences of your relationship. Think of what made you a successful couple? More importantly, it is going to help you to not only get your ex back but to rediscover yourself in the process.

When you skilfully apply all of these, you will be many times more charming than your old self, and your ex will appreciate and fall in love with the new you all over again.

Adanma Onuoha