I have been jilted three times, with varying degrees of heartache following each breakup. Should I just accept the truth staring me in the face…that I may never get married? After all, I am already in my late 30s. (Seyi, Lagos)


Not at all sis. Do not give in to any malicious lie from anyone. I’m sorry you’ve been jilted severally, but hey, it’s not the end of the world. The fact that you are alive means there is still hope for you. The Bible says, ‘a living dog is better than a dead lion’ and also that ‘there is hope for a tree that is cut down because at the scent of water, it shall sprout again’. Don’t be discouraged sis. God has a beautiful plan for your life. God is the Master Planner and He has each person’s time-table with Him. That your friend married at twenty three doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll get married at the same age and it also doesn’t mean that God loves you less. The Bible says ‘there’s a season and a time for every matter under Heaven’. When your time comes, nothing will hold you back from meeting and marrying your God-ordained partner.

I’ll encourage you to do God’s Word. No matter what promises a guy gives to you, never condescend to having sex before marriage. Sex would never keep a guy, rather, he’ll quickly look for the next available lady from whom he can get cheap and non-committal sex. You can’t obey God’s Word and be disadvantaged. It is not because you are a sinner that you are still single, rather, it is because you have not met your own husband.

In addition, be profitably busy while you await your prince charming. Get a grip of yourself and move on positively in life. Don’t put your life on hold because you aren’t married yet. There are territories to be conquered, feats to be achieved, potentials to be explored and skills to be acquired.

Validate yourself, celebrate yourself and be content in who you are. Don’t belittle yourself because of your marital status. Be grateful that you’re alive and healthy. Go after your dreams and goals with an unquenchable passion. It is God who sets the solitary in families, therefore, at your appointed time, He will bring your beloved to you. In the interim, enjoy your single days because once you’re married, it’s a different world altogether.


Rejoice sis, your celebration cometh.




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