Tired of being overwhelmed by your emotions? Here are some top tips on how to cope if you’re an overly emotional person.
I’m an overly emotional person. I won’t lie. I get bothered by most things around me, from loud chatter in the pub, to a total stranger relating some sad news to me, or even bright lights.
Yes – bright lights.
Most days, I simply cannot cope with the way external stimuli affects my nervous system. I feel overwhelmed most of the time, and each day is exhausting.
Perhaps the worst thing is that no one even seems to understand where I’m coming from and what I’m feeling.
“Stop being so emotional,” I’m told. “Snap out of it!”
It’s impossible to just snap out of it.
I’m sure you know what I mean. And as you know, being overly emotional is not some sort of personality flaw that can be altered. It’s an innate trait. It’s down to our chemicals and the way we’re wired. Can we just change all of that? Hardly likely. I struggle with to make toast without burning it, so I can’t imagine myself re-wiring my own brain!!
However, there are at least ways you and I can cope better if we are too overly emotional. Here are ten tips:
Get Into A Morning And Bedtime Routine
Overly emotional people get stressed really quickly when they lose control. Unpredictability is not a good thing to us, and we need some stability. And it’s for this reason that I suggest you get into some sort of morning and bedtime routine.
Morning routines are filled with cues that guide where you’re going next, as well as how you’re feeling. For example, I always listen to a certain song in the morning. It makes me feel good, gets me motivated, and reminds me that I need to seize the day. It puts me in the right frame of mind and prepares me for work.
All successful people have morning routines. It gives them stability, helps get them organised, and prepares them for the day ahead in the right way.
Stop Looking For A Solution
As mentioned, being an emotional person is not a personality flaw. It cannot just be fixed. It’s more of an innate temperament trait. As such, my advice to you is to stop looking for a solution from without, and to start harmonising with what’s inside you. Accept that you are who are you. Know that all the answers are inside you.
Find Out What Your Triggers Are
Do you know what your triggers are? If you don’t, it’s time to identify them.
It definitely isn’t true that we’re all triggered by the same thing. I react badly to crowds, but I’ve hung out with overly emotional people who gravitates towards them.
If you don’t know what is causing your discomfort, you’ll find that life is difficult. Identifying your triggers is not easy and will take some time, but it’s worth it.
Are you getting enough sleep? If you aren’t, it could be making you feel even more emotional than usual.
Lack of sleep is famous for making people cranky and irritable. We didn’t wake up on the wrong side of the bed – we didn’t go to sleep at all!
Get at least 8 hours of sleep a night. It will make you feel better.
Be Firm With People
As overly emotional, we naturally don’t want to do the things that we know are going to upset us. But how sensitive are our friends to this? Do they know that certain things make us feel emotional? Have we told them?
For example, I used to go with my friends to the cinema on Friday nights because that’s when they were all free. I didn’t like it, because it was peak time and it was always really busy. There were adults and kids everywhere and it made me feel so uncomfortable.
Eventually, I told my friends about my discomfort and suggested that we go to midweek or afternoon showings from now on. They resisted the idea at first until I was firm about my feelings and how they should respect me.
And that’s we all need to do. If there are things you are sensitive to, but which you want to do with your friends, find ways of minimising the risks.
You are what you eat. Maintaining a healthy, balanced diet can help to keep your emotions in check. Brain food, such as salmon and walnuts, are especially recommended.
One of my favourite things to do is travel. I love travelling – I practically live for it. But how do I cope with traveling since I’m an overly emotional person? I plan ahead.
For example, I make sure to book top floor hotel rooms so that I’m as far away from the ground-level noise as possible. Up there with the gods, I don’t have to hear the traffic and the people passing late at night on the streets, drunk and loud. I’m safe.
When I travel by plane or train, I always plug in my headphones and turn my music up LOUD.
I find ways of being hyper vigilant so that I can avoid my triggers.
This comes back to an earlier point: Identify your triggers so that you’re not caught short.
Have A Safe Space In Your Home
We all need somewhere we can retreat to when things get too much, and it’s super important that you have a quiet room in your home. Otherwise, you really can feel as though you’re about to explode.
Focus On Your Positive Qualities
It’s easy to dwell on our heightened emotions, and how they stop us from doing certain things we really want to do. It can make you feel down, weak and even pathetic.
Instead of focusing on this, shift the focus to your positive qualities. Many people who are overly emotional tend to also be empathic, creative, loyal and artistic. Remember your gifts, use them and share them with the world. Express yourself.
Cut Out Caffeine
Lastly, I say this to anyone who drinks a fair amount of coffee. Cut it out and see what happens.