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We are a product of our choices and decisions. one of these decisions we must make is deciding who to marry. Regardless of all the books written on this topic, every woman ultimately decides what tips the scales in favour of a particular suitor. It can be a tough call for most women.

There are, however, a few things that a woman may need to consider when making this life-changing decision.

Be Convinced

Before making a decision about whom to marry, be convinced of your decision because you will live with that decision for the rest of your life. Ultimately, you are responsible for your choices and decisions. When your decision is backed up with strong convictions you are not likely to regret it in future. Having strong convictions is a combination of some elements which include whether you have prayerfully considered the proposal; whether you have carefully thought about it and the destination it will take you in future because when you choose to marry someone and not another person, you are headed in a different direction. In addition to these, you need to be convinced that he is the right man for you and whether your destiny and long term vision are in sync. Having these factors combined will help you have a strong conviction upon which you can base your decision.

Saying No

You have the right to say no because you have a free will; and if your decision is no, you should not feel bad about it. However when you give no to a proposal, let it be in an honourable way; you should not abuse, insult or be rude to the person. You could even give reasons for your rejection of the proposal. For example based on your personal convictions that your purpose and vision in life do not synchronize with the man’s own, you may wish to say no.

Timeliness

Don’t allow your response to delay or drag for too long either it is a yes or a no. If it’s taking 6 months or over a year to make a decision, then it appears you have already made a decision. Be decisive and stand by your decision. However, this is not to say that you should be too hasty in making a decision or giving your answer. Take time to pray and think about it; give it some thought and consideration and come up with a solid decision. I believe this should not be more than three months after the proposal though there could be peculiar cases and circumstances.

Face to Face

As much as possible give your reply in person and physically. An adage says oju loro wa i.e. it is more effective when you talk to someone while making eye contact. There are some discussions that are not suitable for the phone; something as important as responding to a marriage proposal should be discussed when you meet or see each other physically. Except in a case where one of you is located at a distant place, and there is no chance of meeting anytime soon, then you could communicate electronically.

Marriage decision is a life time decision, get God involved in it; He will guide you on the right path.