Today’s modern day women are trying to find greater balance between career and family and other different facets of their lives while doing their best to express their genius and talents through their career and family.
As women, we’re great caretakers and will put the needs and priorities of others first, but over time this only leads to failure. Women have always thought, “I just can’t have it all.” They’re resigned to the thinking that somewhere in their busy days something has to give and most times they’re the ones left holding the short stick; often overlooking their own health and well-being in order to take care of all the competing priorities of their career and family.
Here are 12 secrets to balancing a thriving career and a happy home life.
1. Know your Value and Purpose
Get clear on your core values and purpose. Your values and purpose are your internal compass for how to best utilize the natural gifts, talents and genius that you uniquely have to express in the world through your work. When you can walk your path and remain true to your values and gifts, it naturally reduces the amount of stress you experience.
2. Manage Your Own Health First
Be sure to eat healthy foods that feed your body with good nutrition, and make time for some kind of regular exercise so you can work out the stresses of everyday life. If you don’t, these stressors can build up in your system and lead to a variety of health issues both mental and physical.
3. Communicate Your Wants and Needs Clearly
As much as we would like to think that our significant others can read our minds, they (mostly) can’t. Instead of having to make them guess and be disappointed when they don’t figure out exactly what you want, ask for what you need. Practice having open, honest and heartfelt conversations with your loved ones so all involved feel seen, heard and respected.
4. Fill Your Own Cup
Be sure to take time out for things that rejuvenate your spirit. Things like meditation, prayer, getting a fabulous massage or a mani-pedi, doing yoga, or taking a walk during your lunch break are all great ways to de-stress and fill your cup back up with goodness. It will calm your mind and ease your spirit.
5. Be Clear on Your Priorities
What is the most important thing in your life above all else? What is the second most important thing in your life? The third thing that is most important in your life? When you’re clear on what needs to be prioritized first, then it’s less stressful to make choices and decisions based on your priorities as you honor your values, heart and spirit.
6. Get Your Sleep
Getting enough sleep is super important! It’s the time when your body can process through the stress of the day and rejuvenates your cells. Studies have shown that a lack of sleep can create a multitude of negative effects such as loss of attention span and productivity, forgetfulness, depression, weight gain, premature aging of your skin, and health risks such as high blood pressure, heart disease and diabetes, just to name a few.
If stress has you worrying and keeping you up at night, try various mindfulness meditations before you go to bed to slow down your system and calm your mind for a restful night’s sleep. Your body will thank you and so will everyone else around you. This makes you become stronger in handling your career and family.
7. Know Your Boundaries
What are you willing and not willing to do for your work? Where do you draw the line between work time and family time? When does your work-day begin and end? When is your sacred time with family and loved ones? If need be, put it on your calendar and color code it.
The more you practice honoring these boundaries, the more you’re honoring your core values. You’re also establishing separate neural pathways in your brain for those different areas of your life. As you do this, it becomes easier to “code switch” or change gears in your mindset to leave work at work and be fully present with friends and family.
8. Be Mindful of Your Energy Drains
Notice the people and situations in your career that are sucking you dry of your positive life force. Limit your interactions with those kinds of people or eliminate them all together if you can. The less you collude with their story, or buy into it, the less they have something to attach to and will eventually take their story elsewhere.
9. Schedule Regular Play Dates
Just as much as your kids need play dates with their friends, so do you with your significant other and girlfriends. Taking time out to let your hair down and be your “adult” self instead of Mom, or boss, or colleague creates downtime for your hard working brain to just have fun, be silly and do what floats your boat with friends and loved ones.
10. Dance with Your Inner Muse
We all have some kind of creativity that comes through us. It can look a thousand different ways such as painting, writing, gardening, cooking, knitting, and dancing just to name a few. When you take time to express your inner muse, it allows your right brain to light up and activates various pleasure centers in your brain. This releases a cascade of happy chemicals such as dopamine and serotonin which leaves you feeling good and creates a positive ripple effect into other areas of your life and help balance career and family life.
11. Ask For Help
Do not be “I can do it all by myself” kinda woman, there is no way that you can do it all by yourself! When you’re willing to ask for help from those around you for various things you give them the opportunity to be of contribution to you in some way especially in tour career and family.
Learn how to ask for help when you need help.
12. Learn how Let Go of The Small Stuff
In each day there are bound to be issues and challenges that come up which can easily drag you down the rabbit hole of stress, worry, fear or frustration. When you’re clear on what your core values and purpose are, then it’s easier to choose your battles based on what’s truly important, what’s going to move you forward in a good way and serve the greater good.
When you are able to let go of the small stuff you build up your energy reserves for more important things that need your time and attention.