Last time we were on this, we looked at the causes and symptoms.
Today we present, hopefully a way out for the teen and affected parents.
Now, this starts with you as the mother. It is widely acknowledged that apart from mothers getting to spend more hours with the kids than their fathers do, they also tend to have this ‘third eye’ most men don’t. I mean, for the observant mothers, nothing is taken at face value (when it comes to the children).
For starters, be alert to major changes in your child’s behavior, eating habits, moods, sleep patterns and social interactions-as has been mentioned earlier. If these changes run into weeks, raise a red flag!
While you are at it, try not to ignore unusual comments, or words said en passing-especially those bothering on taking their life or hurting themselves.
You can talk with your kid, breaking the silence, kind of. You can have something like “I’ve observed this and that in you, which I find unusual…maybe there is something you’d feel better telling me?” From your talk, whenever they are ready to do so, you can take your cue. If it is established they are depressed, and you don’t think you can “do this” alone, get professional help.
If your teen is expected to follow some professional advice or medication, see that they do so, and be observant of any changes to the positive or negative-and then report findings to the one you consulted.
But there are things you can do without professional help. Things like stable family routine for eating, exercising and sleeping.
Because depression can make anyone, even you, feel so alone and worthless, it is advised you communicate regularly your love to them. This will help them deal with the side effects of depression.
Now to the teen. When you become aware of your depressed state, these steps can help:
- Get sufficient sleep
- Eat wholesome meals
- Exercise regularly
- Confide in someone you trust
- Record your thoughts- this depends on individuals, though.
- And then, pray.
To avoid falling prey:
- Talk to God regularly about any issues bothering you, and you’ll find you will get better as you do so. Also, Personalize His word concerning that situation.
- Because we all need support groups from time to time, open up to someone you can trust. Share the burden. Before you know it, you are strong and good to go!